Pardon my cheap shot at free publicity. I couldn’t resist naming this blog post after Stephen Covey’s magnum opus “The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People“. It was one of the first “real self help” books I read in my life. Up until then I was mostly reading books on personality development, which taught me techniques for manipulating myself and others in an effort to produce results. This was one of the first books that boldly spoke about getting real and genuine. I loved the book. It helped create a lot of value, substance and results in my life.
Having said that, I dont like the idea that there are 7 or 8 or 20 or any finite number of ways in which people can be effective, or authentic in the case of this post. There are plenty of ways, perhaps a lot more than we can discover in one lifetime. Each person striving to live an authentic life can and for the most part does invent ways to be authentic. In this blog post, I share some of the strategies I have learned from books, seminars, other people and also those that I have invented for myself to live an authentic life. My excitement about sharing what I have learned about Existentialism comes from the very real possibility of learning from others about the strategies they invent (or adopt) for living an authentic life. Knowing that no one can ever simply be authentic, offers unlimited opportunity for personal exploration and growth.
Continue reading “8 habits of highly authentic people”
Sartre and others carve a phenomenon called being-for-others, that leaves a human being with an experience of being an object along with other objects in a world of objects, with fixed properties, labels, behaviour etc. Given that people are seldom, if ever, truly alone these days, each person constantly confronts the existence of other people, not simply as objects in his world, but as subjects who see him and judge him and reduce him to an object in their world. To be an object for the Other is the meaning of being-for-other. My being-for-other is the awareness I have of my own objectification in the eyes of the Other.
In this post, I want to explore being-for-other by enumerating common being-for-other experiences.
Continue reading “being-for-others – a breeding ground for inauthentic relationships”
Bad-faith, or inauthenticity, is living a lie that we dont have freedom to choose in the face of situations and realities that we encounter in life. Existentialists, Sartre in particular says that as human beings we are condemned to be free. Our fundamental nature, he says, is to be a free transcendence of our facticity, for which we are required to willingly take responsibility.
In a previous blog post I have shared ways in which one can slip into bad-faith. More recently, I have also shared about an inquiry that I indulge in as to whether bad-faith directed at another, is my own bad-faith or not. In this post, I want to explore anxiety & commitment and how some amount of bad-faith is healthy and even necessary to live in this world.
Continue reading “Anxiety, Commitment & Healthy Dose of Bad-Faith”
According to existentialism, authenticity is living life with willingness that who I am is a free transcendence of my facticity. Therefore, I willingly own-up my facticity and make choices & take action by being fully aware of my freedom to do so. I also take note of the fact that my choices & action lead to consequences that I must willingly take responsibility for. The key here is willingness.
Inauthenticity (or bad-faith) refers to modes of being and behavior that has me not being a free transcendence of my facticity. Basically I am inauthentic if I am not willingly owning up my facticity, or willingly take responsibility for my choices & actions, or crib about my lack of freedom and so on. In a previous post, I have shared my understanding of bad-faith and also enumerated a few ways in which people run project(s) of bad-faith. I strongly recommend that you read that post, if you haven’t already.
In this post, I want to explore the question – “Is bad-faith directed at another person an act of my bad-faith?”
Continue reading “Projects of Bad Faith – Part #2”
Jagriti has been an interesting journey so far. Inspiring, eye-opening; but most of all confusing. On the ground, it is opening new kinds of interactions with my son.
Couple of weeks ago, we had a session on creativity. Post that session, I started to pull my-creative side in my conversations with Advay. Here I share one such incident. Continue reading “Elephant as bell for the cycle”
In QML we have this super-cool feature that allows us to bind the property value of one object as a function of the property value of another object. For instance
width: anotherItem.width * 2
In the example above, the width of one item is twice the width of another item. If for any reason anotherItem.width changes, width is recomputed. This is a super-cool feature.
If we want a similar feature in C++ (with Qt ofcourse), we dont have a ready made class for that. Continue reading “PropertyBinder class in Qt”
After a long time, I started to re-read books on existentialism from Gary Cox. Like he says, study of existentialism can be a hugely impactful thing. I was reading his book “Existentialist’s Guide to Death, the Universe and Nothingness” and tumbled upon this chapter about “Bad Faith”. I inquired into the kinds of bad-faith projects one might indulge in and wrote this piece. Continue reading “Projects of Bad Faith”
Every new year, some of us friends gang up in someone’s house and spend the night out (31st night). We play games, talk, dance, watch movies and indulge in “intellectual” talk.
This year, we all ganged up at my place. We played a few games, got people to dance in couples, danced in groups, had good food together and generally had a good time with each other. Late in the night, we all watched a couple of episodes (Nosedive & Playtest) of Black Mirror together and Continue reading “Falling from a 4 feet wall…”
In Aug this year, I dropped by at the Bangalore 2016 WhatHiFi event. Every piece of equipment that go into making a good home theater was featured in the event. On display were projectors, screens, speaker systems, amplifiers, seating furniture… Everything you would need to build a great home theater. Both desi and international brands were on display, totaling to ~120 brands!! Continue reading “Acoustic Panels, Flooring, Full HD Projector, 320cm Screen, Kodi Home Theatre …”
Good Earth is a fantastically “green”. Every home here deeply cares about having lush vegetation around.
I dont know the names of most plants, veggies, fruits and flowers that grow around our house. But then, I have come to see how knowing their names is not necessary to enjoy their presence. Continue reading “Fruits, Veggies & Flowers around our home”